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Warren’s indifference

“Assure her also as a last & indisputable proof of Warren’s indifference to me, that he actually drew that Gentleman’s picture for me, & delivered it to me without a Sigh.”

letter to Cassandra
January 14, 1796 [2]

Jane was referring to John Warren (who is portrayed in Becoming Jane as Jane’s incredibly awkward suitor, a la Mr. Collns). Others thought he might be in love with her but she believed him to be just a friend. The picture he delivered was one of Tom Lefroy.

The last reference Jane made to Tom was here, where she talks about “flirting her last” with him.

I’ve now posted every quote about Tom from Jane’s early letters. There’s actually very little. We will never really know how much her heart was involved — although, of course, it’s a fun story to tell and fun to speculate.

If you’ve seen Becoming Jane I would love to know what you thought.

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For whom I donot care sixpence…

“Tell Mary that I make over Mr Heartley & all his Estate to her for her sole use and Benefit in future, & not only him, but all my other Admirers into the bargain wherever she can find them, even the kiss which C. Powlett wanted to give me, as I mean to confine myself in future to Mr Tom Lefroy, for whom I donot care sixpence.”

letter to Cassandra
January 14, 1796 [2]

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A visit

“After I had written the above, we received a visit from Mr Tom Lefroy and his cousin George. The latter is really very well-behaved now; and as for the other, he has but one fault, which time will, I trust, entirely remove-it is that his morning coat is a great deal too light. He is a very great admirer of Tom Jones, and therefore wears the same coloured clothes, I imagine, which he did when he was wounded.”

letter to Cassandra
January 9, 1796 [1]

I have read Fielding’s Tom Jones, but I must admit I have no recollection of the color of his clothes. Jane and Tom must have discussed Fielding — a bit risque, perhaps.

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Very gentlemanlike

Img_0264 “He is a very gentlemanlike, good-looking, pleasant young man, I assure you. But as to our having ever met, except at the three last balls, I cannot say much; for he is so excessively laughed at about me at Ashe, that he is ashamed of coming to Steventon, and ran away when we called on Mrs Lefroy a few days ago.”

letter to Cassandra
January 9, 1796 [1]

Jane is again writing about Tom Lefroy.

The picture is of Ashe House, Jane’s dear friend Anne Lefroy’s home, which Jane mentions in the letter. Anne was Tom’s aunt.

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How to be particular

“Mr. H. began with Elizabeth, and afterwards danced with her again; but they do not know how to be particular. I flatter myself, however, that they will profit by the three successive lessons which I have given them.”

letter to Cassandra
January 9, 1796

Jane was joking about dancing three times with Tom Lefroy at the ball the night before. I believe dancing with anyone more than twice would provoke talk.

This is Jane’s first surviving letter.

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Revd. Samuel Blackall

“She [Anne Lefroy] showed me a letter from her friend [Samuel Blackall] a few weeks ago . . . towards to end of which was a sentence to this effect: ‘I am very sorry to hear of Mrs Austen’s illness. It would give me particular pleasure to have an opportunity of improving my acquaintance with that family-with a hope of creating to myself a nearer interest. But at present I cannot indulge any expectation of it.’

This is rational enough; there is less love and more sense in it than sometimes appeared before, and I am very well satisfied. It will all go on exceedingly well, and decline away in a very reasonable manner. There seems to be no likelihood of his coming into Hampshire this Christmas, and it is therefore most probable that our indifference will soon be mutual, unless his regard, which appeared to spring from knowing nothing of me at first, is best supported by never seeing me.”

letter to Cassandra
November 17, 1798
(Samuel Blackall was a clergyman that Jane’s friend Anne Lefroy wanted to set her up with, but obviously Jane never warmed to the idea.)

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A broken heart (or something like it)

“At length the Day is come on which I am to flirt my last with Tom Lefroy, & when you receive this it will be over-My tears flow as I write, at the melancholy idea.”

letter to Cassandra
January 15, 1796 [2]

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The importance of fashion

“I rather expect to receive an offer from my friend in the course of the evening. I shall refuse him, however, unless he promises to give away his white Coat.”

Jane writing to Cassandra re: a ball the following evening, joking about expecting an offer from Tom Lefroy

January 14, 1796 [2]

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Oh, my!

” . . . I am almost afraid to tell you how my Irish friend and I behaved. Imagine to yourself everything most profligate and shocking in the way of dancing and sitting down together.”

Jane to her sister Cassandra, in a letter of January 9, 1796 [1], re: flirting with Tom Lefroy at the ball the night before

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